The Day I Discovered My 'Broken Parts' Were Actually My Strength
What if I told you that your greatest strength isn’t hiding somewhere in your future “fixed” self, but living right now in the very parts you’ve been trying to fix?
I started that day like every other—believing I needed to fix my 'broken' parts.
For a long time, I had been training in a powerful healing process called Focusing. Like so many others, I saw Focusing as another tool to fix what I thought was wrong with me. Another way to become 'better.'
I was using it with great results as a way to respond to life's challenges, carefully navigating the kinds of triggers that can create emotional hijacks.
I thought I understood its power. I thought it was about overcoming triggers—or so I believed.
Until one moment completely unraveled everything I thought I knew.
The Realization That Changed Everything
Suddenly, it hit me like a wave of clarity—a truth so surprising it took my breath away.
Everything I'd been trying to fix, every part I thought was broken, held hidden strength.
I realized that the peace I call being "self-in-presence" wasn't about erasing all the parts of me creating the triggers. Actually, those parts had been protecting the younger me from more emotional pain, failure, and shame—but as if I had not grown up.
The Focusing process wasn't about silencing those voices of fear, control, or doubt.
It was about something much bigger.
Something transformational.
They Weren’t Broken. They Were Protecting Me.
That peace—that "self-in-presence"—could be a way of living.
In that moment, I understood that those parts of me, the parts I used to push away, weren’t enemies.
They were loyal companions.
For so long, they had been working tirelessly to protect me, even when their methods didn’t always serve me well. Even when they sounded like Inner Critics.
And suddenly, I saw them differently.
These weren’t broken parts needing to be fixed. These weren’t weaknesses to overcome. These were sources of incredible strength, wrapped in protective layers of fear and doubt.
Their energy, their persistence, their resilience—they weren’t flaws.
They were sources of strength waiting to be embraced.
The Power of Radical Acceptance
I could allow them to exist without letting them take the lead.
I could welcome them with compassion and transform their energy into something powerful: Radical Acceptance.
This isn’t about being passive. It’s about choosing creative responses rather than fear-based reactions.
And with that acceptance came a profound shift.
I no longer had to live in fear-based reactions.
Instead, I could step into a state of creative response—open, fluid, alive.
It was like seeing the world in color for the first time.
From Fixing to Partnering
Life wasn’t about controlling or conquering my inner world.
It was about partnering with it.
Now, Focusing wasn’t just a practice to use in a crisis; it became my default way of being.
In the face of uncertainty, I could sense the way my body responded, gently dis-identifying from the thoughts and feelings that weren’t about the here and now.
This elegant discipline—this act of sensing and being—opened a new path for me:
A path to discernment.
A path to wisdom.
A path to my body’s inner knowing.
Is Your Greatest Strength Hidden In Broken Parts You've Tried to Fix?
Those parts of you that feel messy, chaotic, or broken—the very parts you've spent years trying to fix?
They’re not the weaknesses you think they are.
They’re holding strengths you haven’t yet discovered.
I know, because discovering this changed everything for me.
What if I told you that your greatest strength isn’t hiding somewhere in your future “fixed” self, but living right now in the very parts you’ve been trying to fix?
Ready to Discover Your Strengths?
When you’re ready to stop “fixing” and start living in the peace and confidence we all want and deserve, let me know.
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